After D80096, bots that build clang for distribution and that can't use system gcc / libstdc++ need to pass a working rpath so that unit test binaries can run. The method suggested in GettingStarted.rst works fine for local development, but it results in an absolute local rpath ending up even in distributed binaries like clang, which is both ugly and unnecessary.
Add an explicit toggle that can be used to add an rpath only for the non-distributed binaries that need it.