[AtomicExpandPass]: Add a hook for custom cmpxchg expansion in IR
This involves changing the shouldExpandAtomicCmpXchgInIR interface, but I have
updated the in-tree backends using this hook (ARM, AArch64, Hexagon) so they
will see no functional change. Previously this hook returned bool, but it now
This hook allows targets to select how a given cmpxchg is to be expanded.
D48131 uses this to expand part-word cmpxchg to a target-specific intrinsic.
See my associated RFC for more info on the motivation for this change
Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D48130